"Be a man! Here is Petya - a real man! How often do you hear such phrases … And what does it mean to be a man? And in general, where did the qualities of a true "men" come from? Let's try to understand this article.
Ideal Man
If you read articles in magazines, watch talk shows on this topic, you can conditionally highlight the following points:
- A real man is one who does not talk in vain, but makes decisions himself.
- He has no constant self-doubt.
- A man trusts his instincts but is able to listen to advice.
- Honest.
- Hardworking, but does not forget about attention to loved ones.
- A true man is capable of sacrificing his own interests.
- Respectful to women.
- Does not look down on the weak and is not subject to prejudice and so on.
Based on the list, being a real man is not easy. How many can boast that there is such a person in their environment? Most probably not. It's hard to be perfect, right? After all, flaws are the highlight of character, emphasize individuality.
How to be a man
Family lays the foundationmasculinity. An important role in the formation of a male character is played by the father's profession. For example, let's consider what real men should be in military families, based on conversations, stories. The main quality is composure and accuracy both in conversation and actions. It is important to be able to answer for yourself without shifting your blame on anyone. Courage is manifested through actions. Crying is allowed only in special cases, alone. You must always work, sparing no effort and not being lazy. And what about the families of athletes? What are the main qualities of a man? It is important to have a sense of responsibility towards your family. The representative of the stronger sex is obliged to support, protect his loved ones, respect the elders. Thus, to build a kind of family hierarchy. For your own growth, you need to often arrange training situations for yourself and learn how to easily overcome them. Of course, these qualities apply to all men in any family. We must not forget that reliability, a sense of duty and responsibility do not exclude kindness, the ability to forgive and a sense of humor.
Macho - who is he?
Daring look, light stubble, naughty hair, pumped up body, dressed in jeans and a T-shirt, casually thrown over a shirt - this is one of the images of a self-confident hero of cult action movies and romantic series. Girls in real life fall in love with him, later being in search of "the man of their dreams." The guys try to copy the walk, the smile, the conversation. That is, there is an orientation to external signs, bright and, as it is believed,attractive. How "macho" can be a real man? The first type is a pronounced sexuality and aggressiveness, a little arrogance mixed with charisma. Inner experiences, feelings are not visible. The second type can be a little plain, simple in clothes and manners, but the character makes its way out, and it is immediately clear that you are facing a Personality, confident, purposeful and kind. Which of them to be next to, of course, the woman chooses.
If a man does not move away from the mirror
A well-groomed, fashion-conscious, slender young man is an eye-catcher. It is pleasant to look at him, it is interesting to talk with him. A metrosexual man is like a beautiful cover of a glossy magazine, sometimes with appropriate content. As a concept, this word appeared in 1994. Let's denote some components of this type:
- Metrosexual likes women. He can be either heterosexual or homosexual.
- Mainly friendships are made with men of the same circle.
- He is always up to date with fashion news, picks up clothes for himself and his girlfriend.
- Prone to emotional and moral unrest.
- Watches his food. Often there are good cooks among them.
- Uses cosmetics. Scrupulous about his appearance.
- Plays an important role in keeping your body in good physical shape.
- Attentive to detail.
- He likes to give gifts, organize surprises.
There is another type obsessed with beauty, but not only his own. Such mainsare called "yuppies". They strive to occupy a high position in society, surround themselves with beautiful women, cars and so on. The man prioritizes his career and carefully creates an appropriate image of well-being.
The choice in favor of a metrosexual is more likely to be made by a woman who is very sensitive to the topics of style, fashion, and beauty. You can meet such a guy only in cities, as large brand stores are located here to maintain the desired image. In favor of yuppies speak a representative appearance and the ability to earn money. But here the charmer is waiting for an obstacle in the form of a larger number of rivals near the successful handsome man. And it depends only on her whether his choice will fall on her.
Quality assessment
Many magazines print tests for men on various topics. After answering the questions, you get a certain result, to believe or not to which - everyone chooses for himself. Most often there are tests to determine male strength, as this is one of the main reasons for self-pride. Such tasks are focused on the study of psychological comfort and identification of physical problems. There are also male tests to determine the tendency to alcoholism, baldness. With their help, you can find out the compatibility with a girlfriend, the appropriate style of clothing, the level of self-confidence and much more. The only question is whether they need to be carried out by a real man, because he himself knows what and who he needs.
And the son suddenly grew up…
Recently, the cult of the family began to lose its significance. There are frequent cases of raising a son onlymother, and this, of course, affects the character of the future man. It also happens that the husband chooses the role of a supplier for himself and does not show a desire to participate in the upbringing of his children. This is also wrong. For a child of any gender, both mother and father are important. Dad gives a sense of security and support. He instructs, is engaged in physical development, teaches elementary labor skills. For example, the father is chopping firewood, the son is also, but with a children's hatchet.
Role of the Pope
How to be a man in your own family? We must not forget that there is always something to do in the house, and a child will gladly act as an assistant, thereby accustoming himself to work from childhood. The son, watching how his father helps his mother by doing physical work around the house, will also strive for this in his family. A man is the owner of a rich life and social experience that he can share with a child. Father teaches to deal with fears and overcome failures. A woman with her unconditional love will not always be able to give wise advice. How to be a man? In principle, this is not difficult, you just need to remember that you are an example for your children. Every father wants to be proud of his son, and for this a man must make an effort.
If a woman is both mom and dad
In cases where the upbringing lies entirely with the mother, due to divorce or the constant absence of the father, where can I find an example for my son to follow? It's hard to be a man when there is no pattern. What is a woman to do? First, always encourage the child's endurance. For example, the son is crying - you needto regret, but if he fell and did not cry, endured, then it is necessary to praise. Secondly, mention the words "brave", "responsible", "strong" and others more often.
Great experience will be familiarity with male professions, with the direct participation of the son or during role-playing games. For example, when a locksmith comes to call home, allow the boy to watch what and how the worker is doing. For the proper development of masculine qualities, you can identify him in the sports section, where the coach is a man. It is important to give your son the opportunity to freely throw out the accumulated energy, and this is running, cycling, wrestling, and so on. Otherwise, nervous strain may occur.
Hero skin
The game of "heroes" is the basis for the formation of the correct image of a man. You need to read books in which, for example, fearless knights show what real men should be like. Setting on "heroism", especially in our country, is always relevant. Acquaintance with the stories of wars, the exploits of ancestors will help to instill not only a sense of patriotism, but also respect for elders, and pride in one's family. Of course, it is good when both parents raise their child with love and responsibility. Everyone's contribution is incredibly important. But even alone, feeling the needs of children and responding to them in time, you can bring up a worthy personality.
Description of masculinity in literature
You can learn about how to be a man from magazines, books. And each time describes his male ideal. So, in the Middle Ages, the honor and valor of the braveknights who tirelessly fight against injustice. The man of that time is capable of sacrifice, he is generous. His life is serving his king, his people.
What should a man who lived in the times of Ancient Russia be able to do? Here heroes are heroes. Powerful, hardworking, open men, they were not afraid to go into battle. They had a good disposition and the ability to forgive their enemies. The stronger sex has always been at the head of the family, placing all responsibility for solving problems on itself. In later works, sacrifice for the sake of the people, love, friends was one of the most basic features of the Russian hero. They were often in search of the meaning of life, emphasizing the sensuality and vulnerability of their souls. Taras Bulba, Prince Andrei Bolkonsky and Pierre Bezukhov, Konstantin Levin, Grigory Pechorin and many others can be called idols. Heroism was sung with even greater force in works dedicated to the Great Patriotic War. There is no question in them: "How to make a man be a man?" They have already been born.
What modern literature says about an ideal strong field
At present, the image of a brave hero, selfless and faithful, is rapidly fading away. Instead, thanks to the promises of television, glossy magazines, and advertisements, a new ideal is born. How to be a man now? The answer is simple - you need to have a lot of money. At least that's what the media is promoting. Succeed becomes the main motto. To be faithful means to be uninteresting. The fear of the Day of Judgment is replaced by the panic of impending old age and unpopularity.
In men'smagazines you can often find the rules of behavior for the ideal man:
- A man should be responsible to his comrades during the holidays. Drunk friend needs to be taken home and put to bed.
- You need to be able to keep up the conversation, but not to push with excessive intelligence. Humor must be added to knowledge.
- Gaining authority through first aid.
- One of the main accessories of a man is a toolbox.
- Strong sex should be able to cook.
The listed abilities are certainly necessary, but are they the main ones…
Female look
The fair sex highlights the role of a man as a mentor. He gives advice, provides support, is patient, and most importantly, always keeps his word. Every person needs care. For a woman, it will be a pleasant surprise when, coming home tired, she finds dinner on the table, which her husband has prepared. He calmly listens to how his wife's day went. Let such evenings be held infrequently, but the woman will know that she is interested, she is loved.
In addition to caring, perseverance in one's convictions is valued. Even if the charmer pretends to be offended by her husband's refusal, she will always respect him for his perseverance. The honesty and openness of a man gives a woman a sense of security and trust. And of course, no one belittled the role of a good sense of humor. Without it, the stronger sex seems boring and boring. How to be a real man for the fair sex? You need to be generous, hardworking, passionate and able to surprise. Great if hebesides, he knows how to cook well and is clean. A real man loves children and enthusiastically spends his time with them. Of course, for different women, the ideal of masculinity is different, but usually all qualities can be denoted by the phrase: “A man must be a man.”
Quotes of the stronger sex
In conclusion, here are a couple of examples of statements by famous men about their own and female virtues:
- "The weaker sex is strong due to the weakness of the stronger sex to the weaker sex."
- "He who overcomes others is strong, and he who overcomes himself is mighty."
- "I am handsome, strong, smart, kind. And I discovered all this!”
- “Women are made solely to please a man. A woman likes a man because of his mental and moral superiority: he likes him because he is strong.”
