In Russia, they always told about what kind of person the deceased was, what he did for his kind. The speech at the funeral is, on the one hand, a tribute to his memory, at the same time - a way to alleviate the grief of relatives. The warmth that comes from the soul when a person shares his memories acts as a balm for the wound caused by loss. With this in mind, you need to prepare for the mourning event. It is necessary to say about what a person is personally dear to
to you, what he achieved in his life, which was especially valuable to him.
What to include in a speech?
Speech at a funeral should be positive and mournful. It is not necessary to describe in detail the biography of the deceased. The main emphasis is on the good qualities of his soul. Only when faced with the departure of a relative to another world, you understand that the material thing that we all strive for is dust. Not for the fact that he knew how to earn, a person is remembered. But, rather, for the fact that he could share what he had accumulated, he saw who needed help, he knew how to say a kind word in time. Therefore, a farewell speech at a funeral usually contains facts that positively characterize the deceased. His personality is described from this point of view. It is not a sin to tell about the one to whom he was kind, thatdid and so on. A speech at a funeral must necessarily contain information about how the deceased was useful to society. (Let it be a small benefit - but it was!) It is necessary to end the speech with a phrase about how deeply you grieve and regret the loss. For example: "I will miss your timely advice" or "I will miss your wise words" and so on.
Who gives the funeral speech?
It is not specifically established who should say mourning words. Usually this is entrusted to a person who knows how to control emotions, from among the relatives of the deceased. Funeral speeches at a funeral should not be accompanied by tantrums and tears. It is desirable that a person who can create an atmosphere of solidarity and trust speaks. So it will be easier for relatives, and the soul of the deceased will not suffer. It is recommended to prepare the words in advance. The printed version is best to have with you. So a person can peep if he forgets everything from excitement and grief. It is best if the closest relative (children, spouse) will say mourning words to the deceased.
A few tips
Speech at a funeral should not be long (no more than five minutes). Consider the degree of grief of the participants in the ceremony. Long ranting will only increase their pain. But a few mean words are not suitable for a mourning speech. Avarice of speech can offend those present, humiliate the deceased. You need to put the warmth of the soul into the performance itself, make it touching, but not plaintive. Need it alivedescribe the most important moments for the deceased, which he valued above all else. The fact is that the soul of the deceased at the time of burial is still between the worlds. It will be easier for her to leave if she feels the peace and tranquility of grieving relatives. It is believed that with our violent mourning emotions we only hold and disturb the soul of the deceased.
In conclusion, I would like to say that mourning words must be well prepared and thought out, so that the person pronouncing them can convey the degree of his respect for the deceased and the power of regret for his death.
