It has long been a popular opinion that the main thing in a woman for a man is her external parameters, that is, a pretty face, figure, legs. At the same time, relevant surveys of the male population were conducted, and according to their results, almost all respondents stated that having a mind is the most attractive feature.
Let's try to figure out what is the most important thing in a woman for a modern man, in fact, and what is most important in a man for a modern woman.
External data
Returning to the issue of appearance, the following situation can often be observed in the modern world. Women, the main point for which is to maintain their incredible external data, remain lonely. The reason for this phenomenon lies in the fact that such beauty can scare away most men who simply do not consider themselves worthy to be near such a person.
Of course, most men will never admit their insecurity even to themselves, but at the same time they will be unable to even approach andstart a conversation with the woman everyone turns to.
Basically, such uncertainty is connected with the popular opinion that for women the main thing is that a man has the appropriate external parameters, a prestigious job, a smart car, a high social status or something else.
In fact, although all of the above can help in attracting a partner, it is quite possible to achieve success with the opposite sex and without special material we alth or a model appearance. It is enough to have at least a slightly suspended tongue, a small amount of confidence and at least the beginnings of leadership qualities. Not superfluous (but sometimes not at all necessary) will be banal self-care.
Sense of humor
Referring to the same sociological surveys, many men are able to say that the main thing in a woman for them is not at all external attractiveness, but a sense of humor. Such a statement, as a rule, means that what matters to a man is not the love of his passion for the comedy genre in general, but the ability to laugh at his own jokes (which can sometimes be difficult).
Many men really appreciate in relationships optimistic, cheerful girls who are able to keep a smile on their pretty face and the ability to laugh even in difficult times. At the same time, no man, of course, will appreciate when a woman attempts to make fun of him, while humiliating his dignity.
As for the other side of the issue, we can safely say that betweenThere is a correlation between the ability to make a girl laugh and the ability to get her into bed.
Comfort and empathy
In the UK, at the University of Newcastle, a study was conducted in which it was found that the ability of a partner to empathize is valued much more by women than by men. In addition, the study suggested that empathy is a form of comfort.
The researcher, in an attempt to construct a theory about the emergence of this difference between the two sexes, put forward a hypothesis that the main quality in a woman even among our ancestors was the ability to create and maintain alliances in society. In the ancient society of men, for whom the ability to get food and the ability to defend themselves from their enemies were much more important skills, social skills were not used so widely.
In modern times, this is taking the form that women with a tendency to extroversion and empathy are often found more attractive by men.
Self-sacrifice and altruism
Another study by scientists at Arizona State University found that romantically inclined women, unlike men, have a strong propensity to engage in altruistic activities, that is, tend to be charitable or volunteer.
However, not everything is so simple. The thing is that the women studied preferred to show such tendencies, mostly in public. BUTthis suggests sexual motivation in the sense that men may find such qualities attractive.
This demonstrates once again that socialization and the availability of skills associated with it in one way or another are of particular importance for women in their strategies for finding partners.
