This is the moment all boys look forward to, because it is the first sex that draws the line between childhood and adulthood. But sometimes things don't turn out the way you dreamed. Young people need to know why they didn't get up the first time and how to deal with this situation without unnecessary frustration and blame.
Expectation vs reality
Romantic date and first intimacy can bring not only delightful sensations, but also bitter disappointment. As a rule, the male half expects everything to happen according to the scenario that they have seen more than once in adult films. But much more often it happens that the partner has even less experience than the young man, and does not attempt to take action. This can be confusing and incapacitating if this scenario is not taken into account in advance.
If a girl is frightened and there can be no question of any excitement, then first of all you need to calm her down, and then think about yourself. No need to talk about the fact that it does not hurt and she will like it. Enough to promise that you will do everythingas much as possible so that she does not experience discomfort. After that, you can move on to more active actions, listening to your body. Still feeling like you're not ready for intercourse? Extend the foreplay or offer to continue in a few minutes.
Sex with a stranger - another reason? Why can't you get up the first time? Even if she turned you on very much at one glance, then, being in bed with her, you can lose all the “fighting” mood. She didn't say it, she didn't look right, and so on. An erection can disappear from both rough caresses and excessive activity. To avoid such situations, you should give preference to friends and close girls.
Fear
This feeling is familiar even to those who have been sexually active for a long time. The most common reason for not getting up the first time. Young men so wind themselves up before contact that what they were so afraid of happens. As a rule, thoughts at this moment for most young people are the same:
- What if she doesn't like it?
- What if everything happens too fast and she tells everyone afterwards?
- And if she doesn't like the size of my penis?
- If I don't get up, she will laugh.
- I can't satisfy her.
These fears at the most crucial moment lead to panic and end with the fact that the sexual organ did not stand up during the first time. Once in this position, do not lose heart, but switch to another activity. In order not to embarrass the girl, you need to assure that everything is inok and just need to wait a bit. Experienced partners will understand what is the reason, and the innocent are afraid no less, and maybe even more! The best option is to hug the girl and lie down quietly for a while. A leisurely conversation will relieve tension, and soon you will be able to continue what you started.
Alcohol
Contrary to popular belief that any embarrassment and timidity can be removed by alcohol, this method has more negative sides than positive ones. Firstly, when you are intoxicated, you do not control your body, and excitement may not come at all. Secondly, over time, abuse will negatively affect potency! A couple of glasses of red wine will be more than enough to put aside all fears and feel a surge of desire.
If you didn't get up for the first time with a girl after prolonged alcoholic libations, then you only have to blame yourself. The myth that potency increases in a state of intoxication has long been debunked. A he althy young body does not need an additional factor in order for it to function! Before listening to the advice of more experienced comrades, think about the consequences - regular alcohol consumption leads to impotence.
Stress, nerves, fatigue
All three factors can directly affect an erection. If a young man is under stress, constantly sleep deprived, irritable, or has recently experienced unpleasant moments, this will affect potency. Even a minor quarrel can lead to a malfunction in the body. There is another similarmisconception - any stress can be relieved by sex. On the contrary, it can only aggravate the situation. Even if initially everything was fine, then obsessive thoughts and irritability can easily spoil everything already during intercourse.
If you feel that your mental state is far from ideal, then you should wait a little with bed games. Especially if it's the first time. A calm, relaxing environment or the settlement of all unpleasant situations will help restore potency and confidence. Share your feelings with your partner - sometimes you just need to speak out, and everything will fall into place. If the problem is fatigue and lack of sleep, then you need to build your schedule so that there is always time for rest and good sleep.
Overexcitement
The anticipation of the most significant event in the life of a young man can play a bad joke. During a date, excitement can occur several times, and as a result, a situation occurs when you don’t get up for the first time. What to do in this case? If you experience pain in the testicles or pulling pains in the lower abdomen, you are overexcited. You may also experience discomfort in the penis itself, nausea and headache.
The best way is to rest and switch thoughts to another area. Not the most pleasant sensations can last quite a long time. At such a time, it is better not to start active actions, but to start with a prelude. Let the body prepare and respond normally to the object of desire. Perhaps the sexual intercourse will be short-livedtime, but you will feel much better and be able to learn to control your emotions!
Physiological factors
If you lead a sedentary lifestyle, then congestion in the pelvic organs is guaranteed to you. Adolescents and young people spend a lot of time sitting: in class, at home at the computer. Therefore, the erection may weaken, and during the first time the sexual organ will refuse to function normally. Physical exercise and daily exercise will help. You will feel the changes in a few days. Proper nutrition and a he althy lifestyle will not only solve problems with potency, but also significantly improve your well-being.
