Perfect family… Who can tell? What is included in this concept and at what point can ordinary post-wedding or civil cohabitation be called a family, and not only what kind, but ideal? Some have to write an essay on the topic: "How do you imagine an ideal family." What comes out in the end? And it turns out that each text written by different people contains completely different formulas for a happy family life. Here are the things.
Here it is worth noting that for each person the model of an ideal family is different, there is nothing definite and concrete. What one person thinks is the best life together, another will not like it at all. However, there are some specific standards, which are listed below. For convenience, they are divided into groups according to different family members. We remind you once again that each person has his own image of an ideal family, below are only generally accepted norms. So let's go.
Female look
What should be the ideal family according to the representatives of the beautiful half of humanity: 10 components.
- He althy and obedient children. Quantity andgender depends on individual wishes, but anyway, in 85% of cases, women consider children to be the main component of an ideal family.
- A lavish and memorable wedding to show off to your friends.
- Signs of attention and courtship from a man even after marriage.
- Unemployed life (for careerists - on the contrary: the lack of regular phrases / requests / demands that it's time to take care of family and home instead of work).
- The attention that the husband continues to pay after the wedding.
- Going to the movies, theaters, restaurants, etc.
- Financial stability throughout life.
- Mutual understanding, lack of quarrels and especially fights.
- An adequate mother-in-law who does not constantly try to teach her daughter-in-law the mind.
- Lack of "household" gifts like frying pans, pots, dishwashers, etc. from the husband.
Male look
What should be the ideal family, according to the representatives of the strong half of humanity: 10 components.
- Delicious and daily breakfasts, lunches, dinners.
- Regular sex, no "headaches" for the wife.
- A cozy, tidy home and, as a result, an economic wife who does not shy away from homework.
- Wife's loy alty to friends; adequate response to friendly gatherings.
- Her loyal attitude to her husband's hobbies and hobbies (letting go fishing, hunting or going to the sauna without a quarrel, the absence of scandals after acquiring a useful thing likefishing rods, car radios, or naturalist's encyclopedias).
- Love for one sport and/or genre of film/music (or at least no controversy due to mismatch of tastes).
- No daily tantrums and scandals from scratch.
- A beautiful wife who does not abandon herself after the wedding.
- A good mother-in-law who does not interfere in the private lives of spouses.
- Lack of "everyday" gifts like a hammer, drill, razor, etc. from the wife.
Childish look
The ideal family through the eyes of children: 10 components.
- No quarrels and fights between parents. Painfully, the kids do not like to see the people closest to them swear.
- No negativity directed at children, be it a raised voice or a father's belt.
- No alcohol in the family and a drinking parent.
- Regular purchase of toys, sweets and other baby delights.
- Permission to sleep with a light or with parents (this item is present in most, but not all).
- Periodic (as often as possible) trips to the cinema, zoos, amusement parks, rides, etc.
- Joint games with parents.
- Great dose of daily attention. Ideally, parents should not work at all.
- Having a pet in the family, preferably a fluffy one, to play with. Ideally, several animals.
- Wish-fulfilling goldfish living in an aquarium, Aladdin's magic lamp, inside which is a real Genie, the entrance toNarnia in the closet and an owl flying in with an invitation to Hogwarts.
Animal look
Some people consider their pets to be full members of the family. Dogs and cats, by the way, also have their own view of the ideal family model, so their opinion should also be taken into account. So, if pets could talk, they would most likely express the following wishes.
- Perfect feeding: the more often the better. Owners should forget about cheap dry food and start cooking for their pets (fish, meat, sausage, etc.). Cooking consists in bringing the pieces into sliced form.
- Sleep anywhere. The ban on jumping on the bed, tables and clothes bodes divisive.
- A caress anytime.
- March delivery of cute females/males on demand.
- Permission to use the toilet in public places like sofa, corners and shoes.
- Breeding mice (personal desire of the feline family).
- Walking for dogs, no washing for cats.
- Daily "hunt" games - for laser, paper, fake mouse, etc.
- Prohibition of touching and seeing other people's pets.
- Communication in one language (of course, in an animal).
Why?
- Why is there no happiness and peace in the house?
- Why can't people get along?
- Why does life together sometimes turn into hell?
- Why is there everything that seems to be needed for happiness, but the family still cannot be called ideal?
- Why can't a family go from ordinary to perfect in a day or two?
- Why did a person seem to be one before marriage, and then became another?
- Why do thoughts of divorce occasionally arise?
- Why is this happening?
Unfortunately, there are no answers to these questions, but they all relate to the topic under discussion, and the main - not the only true, just the main - cause of all troubles is misunderstanding and the lack of some kind of connection between loved ones. Without these components, real, sincere family happiness cannot be achieved.
How to create the perfect family
The answer is obvious: take into account all the wishes of each of the parties. Of course, it is clear that not all the points described above can be fulfilled, some are almost unrealistic, but you can find or try to find a compromise.
Another, simpler and in fact effective option is this: gather all family members and talk frankly; ask what the very concept of “ideal family” means for each specific person, and then decide how it can be created. For it to happen, everyone must want it. Secretly and on your own, you will not be able to create an ideal family, you will only ruin all your nerves and end up with nothing.
Result
The ideal family is an abstract concept that means peace and happiness in relations between spouses and harmony in their lives. For some, the family is considered ideal whenthe presence of a small but cozy apartment on the periphery and two charming kids, and someone will not live well even in a huge chic cottage on the seashore. To each his own.
So, decide what the ideal family means for you, write everything down for a better perception, understand what you lack for happiness, and create your perfect world together with your husband/wife.
