What to do? I'm a fool? Don't jump to conclusions

2024 Author: Henry Conors | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-02-12 02:41

So many jokes have already been made on the topic of female logic, so many bullying from men is heard by some girls who are “unlucky” with their loved ones. The apogee of pain is the moment when the female personality begins to ask herself the question: “What to do? I'm a fool . Everyone makes mistakes, but if there is a person prone to sadism nearby, he will turn the knife in your wound with pleasure, attributing failure to your low intelligence.

I don't remember evil

If this isn't the first time you've been bullied this way, start keeping a close eye on the offender and… write down all his mistakes. It will be like in a joke: “I don’t remember evil, so I need to write it down.” At the slightest collision, you take out your piece of paper and read out the list. And say: “I have one mistake, and you have so many. And which one of us is the fool?! Don't think what to do? I'm stupid, but I learn from my mistakes.”

I'll send him… for an asterisk

For the first time, the offender will freeze, as if struck by thunder. So if your phrase "Why am I such a fool"inspired by the environment, defend yourself - and look for other people's jambs. Yes, it's annoying, but necessary. In general, it is best to physically leave bad people - you leave your parents, divorce your sadistic husband, send bad friends to the bathhouse. You're not a masochist, are you?

Fools all over again

If you made a mistake in some work, say thank you to God (or fate - to your taste) that you made it right now, and not in more difficult circumstances. Figuratively speaking, in the new field of activity, all fools and fools. And not always people are able to learn from the mistakes of others. Don't dream of miracles - learning is impossible without your own failures, so consider that you just paid the price for science.

How stupid?

"What to do, I'm a fool!" is the cry of the soul. Stop calling yourself that. Who gave you the right to yourself or others to attribute yourself to one or another point on the intelligence scale? Even in the IQ tests, which are scolded by all, there are no two gradations of "clever" and "stupid", but there are more than a hundred possible numerical options. So calling yourself a fool is just an inaccuracy. If you are angry with yourself, then self-criticism will not help, especially such a destructive one as a “stupid girl.”

Relationships are a free game field

Don't focus on whether you are smart or stupid. Think about what you did wrong. If we are talking about relationships, then in general the gradation of intelligence has nothing to do with it. It is impossible to manage relationships, no matter what they write in smart books. Interaction between people takes placein different ways, they do not always converge in character, that is, it is stupid to worry about what does not depend on you. And for each individual person, tactics and strategy will have to be chosen separately. Do not transfer negative experiences to new relationships - after all, people are very different.

How to get smarter

The phrase "What should I do, I'm a fool?" says that you are emotionally ill. And he doesn't say anything else. It is better to put the question in a different way: “How to become smarter?” Become more curious, inquisitive, read more, master what is difficult for you, ask questions and find answers to them. Even reading hobby forums raises your awareness and indirectly can increase your intelligence. Don't despair and don't call yourself a fool! If you are not diagnosed with mental retardation, everything can be corrected.