For those who want to communicate more with the opposite sex, they came up with the concept of speed dating. They have become extremely popular due to the convenience of this format. According to reviews of Fastlife (speed dating), it is at such events that clients find a mate for serious relationships, friends and just have a great time.
What is this
Speed up dates are arranged in restaurants, clubs. They put up several tables, and at the entrance they give badges with names. At the same time, the main goal of each visitor is to get acquainted with representatives of the opposite sex in turn, sitting down at the same table with them. As a result, in just one evening, according to reviews of speed dating men and women, you can meet 10 applicants. Then a choice is made with whom to continue acquaintance, and with whom not. The researchers found that the allotted time for "speed dating" is enough to give an impression of a potential partner. It is noteworthy that the first impression is considered the most correct. For this reason, an attractive partner is quite possible to find during this time.
Invention Story
This system was invented in 1998 by an American rabbi. He conceived it as a party for those who have little time but who are looking for a partner. As soon as the first evening took place, they began to be held in Beverly Hills on a regular basis. Soon they became popular all over the world and reached Russia.
Where are they held?
The Fastlife Dating Club is very popular in Moscow. Participants are divided into three age groups and are invited to the restaurant for events. Here are some speed dating venues:
- Chesterfield. Hall "Karaoke". Art. m. "Arbat", st. Novy Arbat, 19, building 1 (2nd floor).
- Tyler The Bar. Art. m. "China-town", st. Solyanka 1\2, p. 1.
- Zolberg. Art. metro station "Dobryninskaya", 1st Lyusinovsky lane, 3B.
System
There are many organizers of various events of this kind, but the same principles always lie at the heart of every evening. According to reviews of speed dating in Fastlife (Dating Club), everything is easy and simple. Visitors, signing up, are in a certain age group. A fee is paid, which is usually higher for men and lower for women.
As a rule, the cost is in the range of 700-1500 rubles. What do people who go on speed dates say? In the reviews, people described the simplicity of the procedure. You must arrive at the appointed time in the cafe. There will be an administrator at the entrance, he will tell you about the rules of the event.
Usually girls sit at tables, and every 5 minutes men sit down to them. The movement takes place in a circle, and so all representatives of different sexes have time to communicate with each other.
According to reviews of speed dating in St. Petersburg, the meeting lasts about two hours. A break is made, sometimes here visitors drink a glass of wine. At the same time, those who went on speed dates in Moscow wrote in reviews that loud music was played at the event, which made it difficult to hear each other. It is important to read the reviews beforehand to avoid such phenomena. Also, this moment is clarified by the administrator before the start of the event.
In reviews of speed dating in St. Petersburg, women wrote that they heard how neighboring couples communicated. And when a man at the next table openly flirted with a woman, and after reseeding, he began to spit through his teeth, his neighbor could be offended.
Sometimes the organizers offer non-standard dates. For example, in reviews of speed dating men in Moscow, there are stories about how the acquaintance took place in the form of a game of "Mafia". There are also similar events in the “peeping” format: people just looked at each other.
Who walks
Many of those who read reviews about speed dating in Krasnodar or other Russian cities have a question: who goes on speed dates? And ordinary people attend these events. At the same time, those who are already married hardly appear here. For the most part, visitors are looking for a serious relationship.
In reviews of fastWhen dating at Fastlife, people indicate that the event takes place in a pleasant environment. For the most part, visitors are totally lonely people. There are also those who are immersed in their work, and sometimes there are people who come here for entertainment.
About Feedback
Speed-dating party reviews indicate that participants receive feedback in a very humane way. So, everyone has a checklist, which notes the impression from each participant. They receive information about themselves either by mail or in other ways.
In addition, contacts of those with whom sympathy coincides are sent. This way people can contact each other.
If you get bored
Someone in reviews of speed dating noted that a large number of acquaintances in a short time can be tiring. But for some, it's the other way around, it's energizing. It all depends on the person himself.
In reviews of speed dating in Moscow, the participants wrote that it is very sad when it is clear in advance that the new person is definitely “not yours”. And he realizes it. And the couple sits, waiting for the signal to change partners.
And in the reviews about speed dating in Moscow, there are stories that sometimes all participants fall under the “not mine” category. But if a person treats this as a workout, then it will rather energize. In reviews of speed dating, there are cases when a person found a business partner at this event. Someone agreed on the supply of goods, having met the rightsupplier right this evening.
Fears
Someone, going to dating, as indicated in reviews of speed dating, may be afraid of being laughed at. But in reality, no one laughs at anyone at such events. Dating of this kind is quite natural for any person. And the modern rhythms of life are such that a person can arrange his personal life literally "on the run." And such events guarantee that a person will come across people who are looking for the same thing as him.
Dignity
Of course, such evenings have both advantages and disadvantages. The main advantage of such events is the fact that they do not require much time. It only takes one evening to meet 10 potential partners.
Besides this, professional presenters usually accompany the evening. People come here who are guaranteed to be looking for a partner. Groups are collected according to certain criteria. For example, there are different age categories, and people are collected on this basis. If the visitor does not like the interlocutor, this issue is very easily resolved: in just a couple of minutes, he will already be transferred to another table. The calm atmosphere at the evenings of this kind is conducive to communication. It is also a great way to spend time effectively by pumping up your communication skills.
Flaws
The frequency of changing partners will resemble a conveyor belt. Everywhere you come across a variety of people, and this also applies to speed dating. For those who are not used to communication, it can become difficult psychologically. It will takeadjust to communicate with different people.
Recommendations
The organizers themselves give their clients, as a rule, several recommendations. They are often advised to remember that no one owes anything to anyone. It is advised to set a goal in advance on each mini-date. It is important to enjoy the process itself, and not think about the result. A light attitude is needed, and this is much easier to handle for those who take life lightly. You will need clothes that will be comfortable and at the same time in which a person will look attractive.
Additional reviews
In fact, the main purpose of speed dating is to exchange contacts between visitors. At the same time, many in their reviews note that it is hardly possible to consider and feel a person in such a short time, which is offered on express dates. First impressions can be deceiving and there is a high risk of missing out on an interesting person and picking someone who doesn't fit.
If someone likes, most people want to be liked in return. And sometimes not everyone can cope with emotions in a couple of minutes. For this reason, many people avoid speed dating parties.
Summing up the advantages and disadvantages of speed dating, many attendees note the fact that when a person initially goes to an event in order to get a result and does not think about the process, he will be disappointed. The result happens to those for whom it is most important to communicate, show themselves and see others, who receive fromthis pleasure.
Steps
To pass this event, you must sign up for it by purchasing an entrance ticket. This is done on the official website. As soon as a person arrives, you need to get your own badge. It has a number on it. Thanks to this, it is much easier to give feedback, there is no confusion. Better come on time.
Tables are set up in the room. Each sits either 2 or 4 people. Each has, as a rule, separate plates with questions. Fill them out to evaluate and remember the first impression of each person. 5-7 minutes are allocated for each acquaintance. After that, a signal is given, and the partner moves to another table.
When the evening ends, the organizers take these completed tables, compare the results. When they find a match, they send matching messages to everyone. As a result, people eventually connect with each other. Often the plates are processed during the day. Thus, the results are clarified after a day.
Express dating administrators offer, as a rule, all kinds of entertainment, contests. And as a result, people who have difficulties in communicating at the stage of dating get positive emotions from these entertainments. Usually administrators offer food and drinks to visitors. It is generally forbidden to come to the event under the influence of alcohol or drugs.
Relevance
The 21st century marks new dating norms. At the moment, there are almost no prejudices thatwere distributed earlier and concerned dating sites, speed dating. Someone said that many pretend not to be who they are, that no one is looking for real communication, that there are many rude people around such events.
The opinions of psychologists differ in most cases. Many say that on the Internet and with strangers, a person betrays his inner essence. This format allows you to reveal what a person hides from his social circle, fearing condemnation. It is often on dating sites that people share their "shadow" fantasies. And there are advantages to speed dating. In addition, having met an unpleasant person, it will not be difficult to get rid of this communication. Whereas during a traditional date, this can cause some difficulties.
Some psychologist says that a person communicates most of the information non-verbally, which fundamentally affects the perception of others. This is the advantage of a speed dating party over online services.
However, such portals on the Internet and in real life have become an important part of modern Russians. Some people meet only there. So, street dating has already become something outdated. At the moment, more and more pairs are created through a variety of services. In cases where a person works for himself, when his social circle is limited, the Internet helps to instantly expand it.
For those who want to see once rather than hear a hundred times, speed dating is ideal. In this format, the humanthe need for an accelerated construction of personal life due to the lack of extra time. And non-verbal gestures are enough to quickly understand what a person is like, whether he is suitable for further communication, whether he really attracts or not.
Reviews of the organizers
Directly, the organizers, in their feedback on express dating, noted that they hold about 3 events every month. Men usually hesitate for a long time and are afraid to go on speed dates, and even after that, about 20% do not come. They are not too sure of themselves. For girls, the prices were lowered so that more of them would come.
In cases where people like each other, they can start exchanging phone numbers right at the party. But the organizers do not allow this. They provide their service to people by themselves sending results to all participants.
The organizers note that speed dating is most in demand among the age categories of about 30-35 years old. At the same time, these categories are the most insecure; younger people are more self-confident. As a rule, adult men do not try to compete with young guys, they come on dates in their age category.
Feedback girls
As the girls wrote in their reviews, they could initially be very worried about the fact that no one is trying to get to know them in various places, on the streets. And they feel like they're missing out on an interesting experience. Often, men are scared off by the inaccessible appearance of these girls. Filling this gap, girlscome to dating parties.
In their reviews of the express dating event, women noted that they served alcoholic cocktails and juices at the evenings. Quite often it happens that the girls sit separately, and the men huddle together to talk about football.
Most of the conversation is about work. Calling each man their profession, women noted how quickly men lost interest when they heard what their interlocutor was doing. There were incidents at such events. One of the men was vehemently interested in whether the girl's appendicitis was cut out. Someone tried to joke, and then began to complain about their he alth problems. It is not uncommon for men to talk incessantly.
From some reviews it is clear that sometimes all the interlocutors merge into a single group and discuss their own excess weight, travel, sports news, diets and cars. This situation is distressing. In this case, the names are not remembered, as well as who specifically liked the most. About half of the dates ended in failure.
Some women come just to have fun.
As a result, it turns out that express dating is ideal for those who do not have complexes and prejudices. This helps to find a partner for those who live in the rhythm of a big city. After all, in small towns everyone already knows each other. The outcome, the process - everything depends directly on the person himself: what he is, how he will put himself, how he will reveal the personality of the interlocutor opposite. Often the participants come the most ordinary, not hereexhibitionists come across, people of strange appearance, unkempt.
Speed Dating Night, Childs
According to reviews, it is this book that inspires some to try what speed dating is. The captivating plot of Lisa Childs' novel begins with a description of the speed dating evening that the main character goes to. There she meets a courageous handsome man who is an FBI agent and suspects the girl of a crime.
