How fragile and how fleeting human life is. Faced with death, as with an inexorable reality, a person drops out of life, fuss and troubles. It seems to stop for a while, and it is at such moments, as a rule, that a person is visited by thoughts about the transience of life.
Thoughts of death cause a natural protest, because a strong desire to live
inherited from birth.
No matter how tight, a person will stubbornly do everything not to leave this world as long as possible.
And so the inevitability of death causes a strong internal conflict and a feeling of deep sadness.
It is far from easy to support someone who experiences such feelings, to find the right words, the right thoughts…
But if such grief befell a person close to us, what should we do? How to console a grieving person and express their condolences on the death of a father, for example?
To answer these questions, firstturn, you need to understand what feelings the one who has lost a loved one experiences.
How does death feel? Is it the fear of the inevitable, or is it still warm in the heart
hoping that death is not the end?
It is important to understand that at such moments, the last thing a mourner wants to know is that perhaps his loved one is somewhere far away in heaven, that he is doing well. A person who has someone died is mainly experiencing his own grief, his misfortune and his own shock, therefore, no matter how cynical it may be, but at such moments you need to think not about the deceased, but about the mourner.
Sometimes, in response to words of condolence over the death of a loved one, you can hear: “I don’t need to say that this is the will of God. I hate being told that.”
Death condolences are not always expressed in words. It happens that the mere presence of a friend who is ready to listen and patiently treat all manifestations of sorrow and despair becomes a consolation to a person overwhelmed by grief. The death of a loved one can be a real test, which not everyone can do and can cause deep depression and despondency. Therefore, the words of condolences for death should be very soft and tactful.
People who call themselves Christians usually believe in the existence of God. And if condolences on the death of a loved one are based on Scripture, it can bring comfort to those who are grieving.
In one of the books of Holy Scripture there is an assurance: “The God of everyconsolation, consoling
us in our time of tribulation.”
Those who offer condolences on death should be very careful not to hurt with words just because they are thoughtless. The death of a loved one is a terrible shock. And therefore, when they say: “Humble up - this is inevitable”, “Calm down, he is in heaven”, - often the desire to live on disappears. But there are other kinds of consolations that encourage you to move on.
The Holy Scripture convinces that God has provided a meeting for all those who once lost a loved one. “Christ has risen from the dead, the first of those who fell asleep in the sleep of death. As in Adam all die, so in Christ all shall be made alive.”
