The qualities of a person's character, including negative ones, determine his attitude to the outside world, and this process is two-way. Surrounding people will accurately copy the attitude of any person towards them, of course, to the best of their upbringing, while often without even realizing it. Such a phenomenon is perfectly characterized by the quote “to each according to his deeds”, although there are rare lucky ones who manage to balance on the verge of humor and rudeness. Nevertheless, society always strives to stick a certain label to each person, for example, a humorist, "the soul of the company", an egoist, a parasite, a hypocrite, an egocentric, a cynic.
The meaning of the last word literally means the following: a person with a shameless, arrogant, rude and contemptuous attitude towards conventional behavior and an attitude of conscious contempt for moral and behavioral norms. However, many people call themselves cynics, and this does not prevent them from finding a common language with others. Let's try to understand this situation.
Some believe that a cynic is an early adult teenager, but this position is far from correct. Naturally, the roots of cynicism as a state of mind are laid in the period of growing up, but in order for a boy or girl to turn into cynics,some event occurs that will forever change the character. In fact, youthful rudeness and rudeness is a kind of defensive reaction of a teenager and often becomes obsolete later.
Others believe that a cynic is a disillusioned romantic, and this opinion is also controversial. In fact, a romantic can easily turn into a cynic, but, again, this requires a strong emotional shock. But everyone should remember that not always a cynic is a former romantic, maybe this is an ordinary boor.
Another option - "a cynic is a realist" - is not even worth discussing. If a person perceives reality in this way, then he may need to turn to a good psychologist. Therefore, replacing realism with cynicism is possible only in the context of some kind of joke, no more.
The most popular position: a cynic is a person with the right attitude to life, in everyday life this quality of character is called "he althy cynicism". And although such an opinion has the right to life, simply by virtue of the fact that it is in everyone's language, it is still a little different. A person with "he althy cynicism" is caustic, satirical and straightforward, but he keeps within certain limits. Agree, it’s one thing to say to a colleague who announced her marriage: “How many husbands do you plan to stop at?”; and another - to throw after the pensioners: "Go to the cemetery, at least it will be freer on the bus."
One can argue endlessly about cynicism and people who have this quality of character - everyonestay with your opinion. Personally, in my opinion, there are cynical people who should be avoided in order to avoid problematic situations, and there are vulnerable and traumatized people who simply wear a mask of a cynic. The last category should be treated with understanding - they, like teenagers, seek to protect themselves from the aggression of the outside world.
