Your well-being directly depends on the ability to present yourself favorably. In order to get a job, meet people who are important to you, make a good deal with a partner you are interested in, you need to conduct a kind of advertising campaign, where the advertised “product” should be yourself or your ideas, experience, knowledge.
In this case, you can adhere to the general principle of marketing, based on such consistent actions as:
- get acquainted;
- find out the basic needs of the opposite side;
- introduce yourself;
- answer questions and objections fully and in accordance with your interests;
- negotiate, make a deal or just like;
- don't be out of sight for a long time and maintain long-term contacts.
The dating period is very important for you. To make it successful, pay attention to yourself, make a complete self-assessment. First, examine the external data, because, as you know, they meet us by clothes. Then look for those character traits in yourself that will help attract andwin over people.
To do this, you need to work a little - take a paper sheet and draw two equidistant vertical lines on it. As a result, you will have three columns. Write down your weaknesses in the first column, skip the second one for now, and fill in the third column with your strengths. Now take the scissors, cut and burn the first column with all your identified flaws. These qualities will prevent you from presenting yourself in a favorable light.
But you can't lie to people with whom you are going to build a long relationship, so in the free column, the second in a row, rewrite your shortcomings in a softer form. For example, instead of “envy,” you can write “imitation of those who have achieved success,” and transform “increased propensity to argue” into “irreconcilable attitude towards the bad qualities of other people.” This is already, albeit small, but a step towards victory.
For example, you need to present yourself at the competition, and for this it is important to know what qualities the evaluating party is looking for and wants to see in you. Even if you have some achievements, but in an area that is not very interesting to people in whose opinion you are interested, then you have nothing to be proud of. It is better to pay attention to those who have already achieved more in that direction, and begin to adopt their qualities. By borrowing other people's useful skills, each of us becomes a more confident person, namely, self-confidence is very important in relationships.
In this state of mindyou need to answer the questions that are asked at the interview. This is not easy to do, so you need to learn as a special art, which makes it possible to win over and easily receive credits of trust.
Self-promotion should not be unconscious. Even if you do not belong to the category of rooks who are thinking about how to present themselves in a beauty contest, but dream of a more modest fate, remember that you do not need extremes. Neither impudence nor excessive modesty lead to success.
