Today it is fashionable to be a strong-willed person. It's not even about fashion, but about necessity. The modern way of life leaves us no other choice. Constant competition at work and in personal life, growing needs and
catastrophic lack of free time - just give a little slack, and the cycle of life events will throw you ashore like an unnecessary burden.
In such an unfavorable atmosphere, a person must not only constantly maintain the won positions, but also improve himself. The discrepancy between the demands of society and one's own forces to meet the needs is the main cause of stress and depression.
What should be the ideal person of the 21st century? Smart, educated, well-groomed, law-abiding, educated, self-sufficient? Yes, self-sufficiency is what distinguishes a spiritually mature person from a notorious individual. This maturity causes respect, envy, the desire to imitate and a range of other conflicting feelings. It is believed that a self-sufficient person is something isolated, closed in itself and supporting itself by its own forces,free from the opinions of others and other prejudices. But does such freedom mean the presence of happiness? And is a person who has not reached certain heights, but is satisfied with his current state of affairs, self-sufficient? In what areas of life does this quality manifest itself?
From the point of view of psychology, self-sufficiency is the ability of an individual to overcome his problems and satisfy his needs on his own. The main qualities of a self-sufficient mature person are the absence of fear and the full acceptance of responsibility for their actions. If such a person does something, then he does it primarily for himself and for his loved ones, the opinion of others is not at all a necessary attribute here, praise and respect are rather a pleasant addition to the satisfaction that has already been received from a job well done. Self-sufficiency can manifest itself in different areas of life:
1. In economic terms, it implies independence of decision-making in everyday matters.
2. In the social - means the recognition and competence of a person in those matters in which he is engaged. At the same time, it is important that the individual himself be satisfied with himself and his work.
3. In the psychological, it means acceptance of oneself, the absence of fear or discomfort in front of possible loneliness. A person is not afraid of his internal problems, he has something to do alone with himself. However, self-sufficiency is
not a lack of affection or love for someone at all. It's onlyno dependency.
As for such a controversial category as a woman's self-sufficiency, only one thing can be said here: excessive ostentatious confidence and strength can help build a career, but they are inappropriate in relationships with members of the opposite sex. Failure to follow this simple rule often leads to problems in your personal life.
Self-sufficiency is not an innate quality, it is acquired in the process of development and social adaptation. It can be developed purposefully by working on yourself. Remember that only you are the creator of your life, responsible for everything that happens in it.
