In our language, the proverb "cherish honor from a young age" is popular. It can be interpreted in different ways. But it will always remain relevant for girls. Once ruining your reputation with frivolous behavior, you can reap the consequences for the rest of your life. Virginity and chastity - is there a difference between these concepts, and if so, what is it?
The term "chastity"
This concept implies, first of all, moral purity. Our contemporaries rarely think about their lifestyle. Girls, starting from a very early age, want to become more mature and for this purpose do not hesitate in any way. Meeting older men, drinking alcohol, smoking, the desire to have the most modern gadgets and a passion for travel - can a girl with such life values be called chaste?
Modern society has become so liberated and has lost the framework of morality and morality that the term "chastity" has become somewhat humorous,loose shade. Nobody thinks about its true meaning. Many people substitute the concept, considering the term "chastity" as a synonym for the word "virginity". Allegedly, a chaste girl must be virgin. This is actually a myth.
What are the characteristics of a chaste girl?
In our time, this characteristic will not please many. But people who are thinking about their future will appreciate a chaste girl.
Her portrait is characterized by the following features:
- Meekness. She will not praise herself in front of teachers or friends. It is better to prove your knowledge of the subject and the ability to learn directly in practice.
- Seriousness to own promises and words. She does not throw phrases into the wind - she understands that "a word is not a sparrow, it will fly out - you will not catch it."
- No bad habits. A chaste woman understands that a cigarette in her mouth and a glass of even the most expensive cocktail in a woman's hand looks caricatured and vulgar. Such a lady causes contempt and may interest a man in her person only for short-term relationships.
- Chastity is moral purity. Such people do not need to chase money and recognition. They do not live by ghostly short-term goals, but by fundamental ones - the family, the interests of the family, science, altruism.
- For a chaste girl, charitable deeds are characteristic. She helps animals, old people and children, not for the sake of a beautiful gesture or a word."Thank you". She does it at the behest of her soul.
Attitude of religion towards chastity
Many of our contemporaries, with the phrase "chastity is the purity of thoughts" or the like, immediately recall sects or various kinds of religions. This is a mistake, this concept does not always have a similar connotation.
Any religion (be it Orthodoxy or Islam) does not welcome a cheeky and dissolute way of life. But is the desire to lead a decent life necessarily only under the fear of violating the dogmas of one's faith? Hundreds of thousands of women lead a chaste lifestyle, protect their honor not under the yoke of mythical commandments, but thanks to their attitude.
What does "a chaste girl" mean from the point of view of Orthodoxy? She not only takes care of herself in relation to men, but also observes fasts, regularly takes communion, knows and studies the Word of God, confesses to the Father.
A chaste girl - is it good or bad? The answer to this question is clear. The family and school should instill in the girl self-esteem, respect for elders, altruism and a true understanding of the concept of "chastity".
Which girl is considered virgin
The concept of virginity is slightly different from the above. This is a medical term. The hymen is an obstacle that arises before the very first sexual intercourse in the life of every girl. After its violation, we can say that virginity is lost.
It can only happen oncein life. After this moment, the girl becomes a woman. In secular society, it is generally accepted that the status of "woman" is acquired by a female creature only after she becomes a mother. Viewpoints on this issue may differ.
Is virginity a disadvantage or an advantage?
The decisive moment in this matter is the age of the female. Of course, if the age is more than twenty-five years old, the hymen becomes a problem and a source of complexes. Everything must happen in its own time. If there is a permanent partner, mutual love between a guy and a girl, then there is nothing scary in the act of love. On the contrary, it will become a source of joy and happiness for both partners.
Both parents should be involved in raising a girl. It is impossible to instill proper self-esteem, value yourself and keep your honor in the face of constant family scandals. It is very rare for a chaste girl to come out of a troubled family where drunken brawls and physical assault are the norm.
If a girl grows up in the family…
Then both parents should make every effort to teach her chaste behavior and instill a he althy self-esteem. Nowadays, due to the difficult economic situation in the country and the loss of the value of family status, children grow up like a "weed". They are left to themselves, walking the streets without adult supervision and scooping information from the Internet about the darkest aspects of adult life. Can a girl grow upsuch a chaste setting?
Money and financial well-being have become the main value. Young girls look at the behavior of peers, start smoking and drinking, dating boys not for the sake of feelings, but for the sake of false prestige. For the sake of the new "iPhone" they are ready for literally anything. And we, adults, make their world so. How can they grow in such an environment? And then on TV people are surprised by another program "Let them talk" about a fifteen-year-old schoolgirl who gave birth to twins.
Virginity and chastity: the difference
"Virginity" is a physical concept. And "chastity" is spiritual. This is the main difference.
The spiritual world of each person can be beautiful, or it can be ugly. Greed, envy, acquisitiveness, betrayal - these qualities arrange a personal hell in the soul of every person already during his lifetime. Without speaking in a religious way, even from the point of view of the narrow-minded kitchen psychology, each of us recognizes that these qualities are destructive.
What does a "chaste girl" mean in terms of secular society? Honest, kind, without evil thoughts, always ready to lend a helping hand to her neighbor. Only a narrow-minded person, having heard this word, begins to giggle and imagine indecent scenes from all famous films. A good education, a decent family and social circle, high-quality cinematography have a beneficial effect on the upbringing of girls and help them grow up chaste and whole.personalities.
