Issues of femininity in a girl's life have always caused not only interest, but also a lot of controversy. Recently, more and more often, the beautiful half of humanity can hear not the best words for themselves. They sound like "You are a kept woman." In principle, someone will be offended by this expression, and some, on the contrary, will walk with their heads held high. It all depends on what kind of meaning is invested in this concept. Keeper - who is this? Today we will find out. Is it good or bad to be her? And do kept women really mean those who were called so earlier?
Definition
Our today's question causes a lot of opinions and disagreements among people. Therefore, it is worth turning to history in order to understand at least the old meaning of the term. A kept woman is a woman who lives entirely at the expense of a man (most often already married) and at the same time has an intimate relationship with him. That is, not a prostitute and not some girl of easy virtue.
According to the dictionaries of Ozhegov and Ushakov, a mistress who lives entirely at the expense of her lover is provided by him. Please note that here the role is also played bydirection of the relationship. As a rule, kept women do not have a common life with their lover, but at the same time they are quite serious. The only real connection between partners is intimate. It can be said that, according to current concepts, kept women are girls who are fully provided for by lovers and at the same time are in "free relations" with them, without everyday life, but with a game of love.
Not a prostitute
Some assure that our today's ladies are real prostitutes. After all, in fact, they take money for love and sex. To be honest, this is not entirely true. Keeped girls are not courtesans at all. Why?
If you still refer to the generally accepted definitions written in dictionaries, you can see that the kept women have financial support only for one man. And at the same time, after an intimate relationship, she does not take money from her lover. He himself provides life for the lady of the heart.
So, virtually every mistress is a kept woman. This is exactly what happens in practice. After all, most men, having taken a mistress, try to fully provide for their new passion. And on a voluntary basis. And this, in turn, is not prostitution. A woman plays love, while sleeping with only one lover and is set for a long-term relationship.
Societies
For some, a kept woman is an insult. And someone, on the contrary, is proud of the fact that he manages to live for his own pleasure at the expense of others. Moreover, the lover usually expresses the initiative in the content.
Now you can even meet entire communities that include kept women in different cities. It's kind of like an interest club. In such places, kept women (Nizhny Novgorod, Moscow or any other city - it doesn't matter) gather and share their life stories, the secrets of seducing men and generally communicate with each other.
This kind of associations literally praise being fully supported by a man. And here the kept woman is an honorary title, and not an insult or something forbidden. Therefore, having been in such societies, girls often think about starting to live at the expense of a man. But more on that later. After all, kept women are not only those concepts that were considered earlier. In the modern world, it is customary to reduce many women to this "comb", thereby insulting them.
Housewife
What exactly is the problem? The fact that now the beautiful half of society has ceased to be valued and respected precisely as a woman. This phenomenon is called gender equality. That is, on the fragile shoulders of a girl, purely masculine duties can lie, and simply something that is not entirely characteristic of a person created for the birth and upbringing of children, housekeeping.
Kept woman is a housewife. That's what a lot of people in today's world say. That is, if a girl does not work, but lives at the expense of her man, but at the same time performs all the women's duties of housekeeping and keeping the house cozy and clean, she can literally be called our today's term.
This is wrong. Yes, the kept women initially live at the expense of the man. But if you look at the exact definitions, common life and marriage do not bind partners. Housekeeping is also work. Unfortunately, she doesn't get paid. Therefore, it is wrong to call a housewife a kept woman. After all, in society there should still be at least some division of duties. Kept women (St. Petersburg, Moscow and other cities) are those who live for their own pleasure at the expense of others. But not housewives, they actually work - they look after the house. This is also, as already mentioned, work, although unpaid in practice.
Unemployed
Unfortunately, in the modern world, our today's term is very much, and even often, distorted. A kept woman is generally any woman who does not work. Or does not bring enough money to the family budget. That is what many claim. In fact, if a girl herself does not fully provide for herself, she is a kept woman. This is judging by modern distorted rules. But in reality, the true interpretation of this expression still holds.
Do not pay attention to the speeches that you are a kept woman, if you do not work, live off your man (even if it is a husband), but at the same time "you" have a house, children and life. The separation of duties has not yet been canceled. Yes, now men and women have the same rights, but there is justice too. If both work, but at the same time the girl spins like a squirrel in a wheel after a working day, and the man rests (this is exactly what happensin fact, most often), then this is not equality at all. It turns out "I am a plowman, I am a bull, I am a woman and a man." That is, there are two extremes in society from now on. Either a woman is a draft horse, who looks after the house, and brings up children, and earns money, or a kept woman. Moreover, the second concept, as we have already found out, means precisely the absence of a monetary contribution to the family budget. Circumstances such as a decree and an agreement between the spouses are not taken into account. This is the kind of society we have now!
How to become
But we will focus on more specific concepts. A kept woman is a girl who simply lives entirely at the expense of her lover. This is the kind of person that many strive to become. In fact, as some real kept women assure, their role is a huge job. And he is not for everyone. You need to have nerves of steel and endurance in order to "apply yourself" correctly.
How to become a kept woman? To do this, you must have an attractive appearance. This means that you will always have to take care of yourself. Diets, cosmetic procedures, physical exercises - all this will become your life, and on an ongoing basis. At first, these processes may seem like pure pleasure, but over time, you will realize that keeping yourself in shape can be extremely difficult.
Also, kept women (Moscow, St. Petersburg or any other city - it doesn't matter) must have the skills to seduce men. And a few features that are usually given with difficulty. If you can learn from books and recommendations firstother girls (or maybe seduction is in your blood, by nature), then the second is work, work and work again.
What is it about? A kept woman should be able to run a household (and it’s just enough to show that you have hands “from that place”), take care of yourself, be a goddess in bed. But the most important thing is that not all women can do it. Any kept woman should be able to listen and be silent. Agree with a man, support him and show that he is the best - this is what will help you become a kept woman.
Sites
What else can you say? To be honest, recently you can find the service "Keepers.rf" on the Internet. This is the so-called dating site. Here the girls are trying to find a lover.
A good way to find a man who will support you. Although often it is here that many are looking for not a couple, but prostitutes. So, be careful with this kind of service. It is advisable to look for a man in real life. And do not openly advertise your plans for maintenance on his part.
Worth it
We have already found out who the kept women are. These are girls who live at the expense of their male lover, but do not lead a common life with him. Moreover, girls have relationships with only one person.
Is it worth it to become a kept woman in the real concept of this term? It has already been said that this is a huge work. And it is not only in some skills and physical form.
The main problem that haunts all kept women isno right to love. Falling in love with such girls is strictly prohibited. If we are talking about love for a sponsor, then over time the woman will most likely cease to be supported by her beloved. And if you give your heart to another young man, how the providing lover will refuse to pay for the life of the girl.
Conclusions
So we have studied everything that can only concern kept women. As you can see, in the modern world, this term is very much distorted. And therefore it is difficult to judge whether it is really normal to be on the support of a man or not. If marriage and a serious relationship are understood, then a kept woman is not a completely correct interpretation of what is happening. Remember, this term applies only to a free girl who is not connected by life with her lover. She just lives at his expense, has an intimate relationship with her sponsor, but only with one.
To be a true kept woman or not? This is for everyone to decide for themselves. In any case, if money is more important to you than feelings, then you can try. There is no true happiness without love - remember this. But being a kept woman in a distorted concept (a housewife, a woman on maternity leave, and so on) can be done without fear and remorse.
