There are always good and bad people in the world. This division is simply necessary so that a person can truly appreciate true friends and devoted girlfriends. But increasingly today you can hear propagandized selfishness. It seems, why spread such a deliberately incorrect life model? But some people think that life is easier this way. Today we will consider one of the aspects of selfishness, namely, ingratitude. Is a person who possesses this trait good or bad? Read about it below.
Who is an ungrateful person?
Sometimes it is very difficult to explain the simplest concepts. Who is an ungrateful person? This is the one who does not feel any sympathy for his benefactor. And it seems to be terrible. Yes, this is true, most of the time.
No one is pleased if, for example, you extended a helping hand to a person who fell intopuddle, and he will rise, soiling you from head to toe, and not even thank you. After all, it seems that it is difficult to say “thank you”. And if you ask such a person a question why he didn’t thank him, he will answer that you didn’t do anything supernatural, you just fulfilled your human duty. And this is even true, because he did not ask to pull himself out of the puddle, it was your personal decision. And so you will be offended, and the person will go on as if nothing had happened. This psychology may seem strange, but if you look at the modern world in which people live each for themselves and so rarely give each other a helping hand, the situation does not seem so wild.
Why a person becomes ungrateful
How is it that people become indifferent to each other? For the most part, this is because every year a person becomes more and more aggressive. We close ourselves in a narrow circle of our friends, although we want popularity in the form of subscribers on social networks.
But an ungrateful person can grow up right away. Today it is fashionable to raise children in a European manner. Consider the child as a person and allow him everything. But this is wrong. Prohibitions are always and everywhere, and the child must understand this. Therefore, when the walls of prohibitions collapse, children think that everything is possible for them, and they forget about the elementary rules of culture and etiquette. Today you can meet many young people in the subway who do not give up their seats to the elders, do not say "thank you" for small services. And these little things, coming together,form a snowball, which will later be called ingratitude.
Is there a saving pill?
It all comes down to education. If parents lay down moral standards in a child, then an ungrateful person will not grow out of such a person. But if you make a mistake and lose sight of this aspect of education, then in the future you can expect trouble. Is it possible to cure a tree that has rotten roots? That's right, it's impossible. So it is with a person, if he has not learned to say “thank you” before the age of 30, then you should not expect a miracle. Soul-saving lectures will not help. A person must himself realize his mistakes, only in this case he will be able to correct them.
Ingratitude is a kind of weakness
Today this quote has lost its relevance. People consider ingratitude to be the norm of life, and no one wants to admit that this is just a kind of weakness. But, indeed, it is pride that prevents a person from thanking his benefactor. But how can you be hurt by the fact that you need help. After all, there are situations from which it is very difficult to get out on your own. Therefore, our predecessors composed many proverbs about ungrateful people so that the future generation would not forget folk wisdom.
The first step of ingratitude is to examine the benefactor's motives
If you think about this quote, it seems pretty obvious. If you look for a cunning plan in the actions of your benefactor, then it is easier to believe that a person did good not from a pure heart, but from self-interest. But it canthink only an ungrateful person. After all, sincere people help their neighbor just like that, honestly and without any intention. Simply because they cannot pass by their relative without helping him out of trouble. Ungrateful people, quotes about which are forgotten today, conquer our world. We need to resist this onslaught and believe in sincere and bright feelings.
Expecting gratitude is stupid, but being ungrateful is mean
This quote represents the generation of the last century. Previously, people did good deeds just like that, from the heart. Today, if a young man takes his grandmother across the road, then all his friends will know about it. After all, he did a good deed, everyone should know about it. It turns out that the man took his grandmother across the road not to help the old man, but to become more noble in the eyes of his friends. Yes, and obsessive ungrateful people are now not considered vile. But in vain. By forgetting our culture, we lose part of our history.
Only an ungrateful person is able to praise in the face, and slander behind the eyes
But this quote is being used today. Indeed, only an ungrateful person is capable of slandering his friend. It must be admitted that gossip lives in a person's blood. Sometimes it seems that you don’t feed another person with bread, just let them slander. But it is also encouraging that today there is a tendency to kill gossip. There is another good quote: "Speak about a person either well or not at all." The quintessence of these twophrases makes us understand that only stupid people who live an uninteresting life gossip and slander. After all, you need to discuss ideas and analyze your actions, not others.
Finally
No matter how much people owe you, if you refuse them one thing, they will only remember that this refusal. There will always be ungrateful people. The aphorism only confirms this. Each of us had a case when we selflessly helped a friend or girlfriend, and they sat on our necks. And at that moment, when you tried to besiege an annoying comrade, he accused you of ingratitude. This happens all over the place. People in some mythical way manage to remember only the bad, and the good seems to evaporate from their heads. And only those people who can remember good and forget evil will achieve true heights in life. In a word, always be grateful people!
