People don't change or is it a delusion? Perhaps it is impossible to judge unambiguously. There are a number of features inherent in each personality, which are called character. But habits can be replaced by others that are more beneficial for a person.
Is personality a constant?
Even speaking of character, one should not forget that an individual is able to improve it depending on his own needs and desires. Times change, people change. Many have complexes that came from childhood. For example, a child closes himself, protects himself psychologically. But when he grows up, already an adult begins to understand that he no longer needs the old mechanisms, they should fall out of his head like baby teeth.
Why do we act and think the way we do?
Neural connections are created in the brain that fix in our minds a certain algorithm of actions, a list of options for actions in a given situation. For example, if a child was humiliated in the yard, he gets used to being offended, but in the future this may affect his self-esteem and cause the creation of an inferiority complex.
If people don't change, they stay the samefrightened children who cannot develop either professionally or privately. And even if the outside world is benevolent to them, the created neural connection in the brain says “Suffer, there is danger, evil and enemies around.”
As a rule, teenagers experience such contradictory feelings, but some pull this trail with them into adulthood. Do people change after childhood traumas or those experienced at a more conscious age? Of course! The main thing is the desire to understand yourself, delve into psychology, and not think that this is all nonsense.
Sometimes you need to delve into yourself
As a rule, when an individual gets a profession, a hobby, the attention of the opposite sex, makes friends, he himself has a question: “So what do I not like?” It's time to understand the reasons for your wrong thinking and really become the person you always wanted to be.
People don't change unless they don't want to. Even the types of temperament studied by psychologists are considered not so much an innate phenomenon as a phenomenon obtained in the process of development. Many justify their indecisiveness by classifying themselves as melancholic, or harshness, being a choleric. But that justification doesn't change anything. People didn’t like excessive softness and rudeness, they won’t like it, but a person has to live with it.
He can endlessly run from his shortcomings, but it is much more effective to deal with them, clarify everything, understand the course of his own thoughts and discover, inexactly what moment did the path of development of the inner emotional sphere turn in the wrong direction. With the right effort, you can change yourself. Do not adapt to the surrounding reality and put on a mask, but show your best qualities.
Change the background we are on
The flexibility of a person in terms of adapting to the environment becomes obvious to us in the simplest examples. For example, in children's textbooks on the subject "World around" you can see that people's lives are changing. In the top row of the table in one of the tasks, items that were used before are registered. This is hay, firewood and food obtained during the hunt. Looking around, seeing tall buildings, cars, supermarkets, computers in every house and apartment, we understand that people's lives are changing. In the upper section of the task are those household items that helped to survive before, and they will seem to us, no doubt, meager. Now a person has more opportunities. The flow of information is huge and unceasing, which we sometimes do not even have time to assimilate.
Due to the chaos and noise of the world, many develop mental illness. At the same time, the world has become more progressive. There is more knowledge about how to use the gifts of nature. If not for the achievements of scientists, we would be deprived of many amenities, but there were times when the development of scientific thought was stopped.
Deceleration of development
When it comes to the Middle Ages, we immediatelyvaults of castles, gothic cathedrals, campaigns of the crusaders and endless internecine wars are presented. We visualize the bonfires that were arranged by the inquisitors, as well as knightly tournaments among the feudal lords. This era is famous for such signs.
How did the ideas of medieval man change against the background of these outward signs? Did they see the external environment as we do, and what was the driving force behind their actions?
How the ideas of a medieval person about the world changed can be seen from the cultural and mental fund, the elements of which have survived to this day. Many useful knowledge people of that time learned from ancient philosophers and sages. There were many prejudices and distortions in ideas during this period. That is what separates the era of the Greeks and Romans from the period that is used to be called the New Age.
How do people's perceptions change, for the better? Most of the authors who touched on this topic in their writings argue that they are not, and characterize the Middle Ages as a failure in development, a stupor in which humanity has fallen. The culture of European states at that moment was much weaker than in other time periods. There was noticeable backwardness, a decline in culture and moral values, and less attention was paid to human rights. This period will be cast in a dark shadow. That's what they call its beginning - the "dark ages".
Aspirations and desires
In the novel "The Master and Margarita" by M. Bulgakov, Woland said that people do not change. But it's more about their motives. Whatman has always been attracted to we alth, everyone knows well.
Also eternal is such a passion as vanity. It was on them that the hero focused. But at the same time, it is hard to deny that no matter how great the progress of science, self-realization, closeness with other individuals, mutual understanding are always important for people. Civilization offers many ways to entertain yourself without being surrounded by other people, but at the same time, nothing can replace live communication in terms of quality and impact on mood. In human nature, there are many instincts that sit at the subconscious level.
Instinct Level
Sometimes we don't even realize why we act the way we do. Take for example the love that takes place between a guy and a girl. Women tend to concentrate excessively on their partner and, without receiving news from him for a long time, fall into a hysterical and depressive state. Of course, anyone who has bothered at least once to understand their emotions and pull out all their causes to the surface is less prone to such incidents.
If you blindly follow your instincts, you can notice extremely stupid behavior behind you. So what is the reason for all this? If we remember the primitive community, we will see that the men went hunting, and the women cooked food and looked after the children. If there was not enough food for the whole tribe, the division of material values was carried out according to the principle of force. And, of course, men measured their biceps. After the strongest, his woman ate, then the second most powerful and his wife.
Self-preservation instinct
So the thought of modern ladies that they cannot live without their chosen one, called love, is the purest example of the instinct of self-preservation. Selfishness is inherent in everyone, so such a feeling can be explained by some benefit for oneself.
In our time, a woman can earn a living by herself, engage in intellectual work, but all the same, the thought sits in the subcortex of the brain that starvation awaits her without a companion. Hence the desire to be beautiful, the idea that the main thing in a girl is attractiveness. All because in a primitive society it was by this criterion that people were judged. And this is the most banal example of how our actions and thoughts are controlled by instincts.
In fact, our ancestors before us did a very thorough job of creating survival skills, thinking mechanisms and other patterns that we sometimes use unconsciously. Everything changes, life changes, people change. Or is it only the shell that changes, but inside we are still the same?
What can and can't be changed?
Settings that sit in us genetically, it is almost impossible to change. They need to be recognized and understood why we do what we do. The second large layer of information that is stored in our brain is the events of childhood. We have a set of species instincts, but now we need to develop our own, based on the situation and events that are happening around us personally.
If an individual did not develop in the most favorable environment and was negatively influenced, his parents fought, drank, gave him littleattention, or, on the contrary, spoiled too much, all this can affect the further formation of the personality and cause some complications. But such a person should not consider himself a moral invalid.
Such dark spots, which at a conscious age have to be wiped off, are almost everyone. The main thing is not to justify yourself, but to get down to business. Do not complain that the world does not accept a person, but first to know and love yourself.
Everyone can change for the better
Sometimes we cannot change the features of our character and body, but we can always find how to improve them, because everyone has a grain of beauty from which you can grow a whole garden with beautiful flowers and he althy tasty fruits. All it takes is an industrious tiller who can get to the bottom of the problem and shed the refreshing moisture of truth on it.
Looking at the scientific progress, the cultural heritage of mankind, we see that people have plenty of strength, intelligence and opportunities for development. Looking at wars, catastrophes and accidents, we also understand that if we don’t get out of error at the right time, we don’t set the right priorities, this force can serve not the best purposes.
Everything is in our hands
A person is both evil and kind, stable and changeable. The beauty of our life lies in the fact that we ourselves create the road we walk on. If people have the opportunity to change for the better, they will definitely be able to do it.
If an individual wants to throw his soul into the fire of sin and the intentionfirmly, no assurances can dissuade him from this undertaking. For the harmonious development of the world and the presence of only positive changes, everyone must learn to take responsibility primarily for their own lives, judgments and actions, to make themselves better. Then all mankind will be transformed. The choice is yours!
