Many people who are interested in philosophy and personal development have heard about the seven-year cycles of human life. Of course, this theory is not entirely unambiguous and has certain exceptions, which is why it is actively criticized by some experts. However, understanding such cyclicity will be not only interesting, but also useful.
What are these cycles?
To begin with, there is a theory that every seven years a person changes significantly. This is a period that is enough to gain experience that allows you to move on to the next stage of development. The transition is associated with a significant change in outlook, perception of the world, finding one's place and goals in it.
It is because of this that seven years, fourteen, twenty-one and so on are crisis years. However, do not immediately perceive these years as something negative. It's just a rethinking and changing a person as a person. Without it, there can be no growth. The number of cycles can vary significantly - each specialist studying this topic gives certain thesesin defense of his theory. Some talk about 12 cycles of human life, while others believe that there are much fewer of them - about seven or eight. Well, it is quite difficult to answer such a question unambiguously.
Why should I know?
Now let's move on to the next question: why do we need to understand the cyclical nature of life? This is a really valuable skill, and it is of interest not only from a theoretical point of view, but also from a purely practical one.
Having an idea about the seven-year cycles of a person's life, you can learn to understand others much better, build relationships with loved ones (parents, children, other relatives). After all, knowing what a person appreciates most at a particular age, what goals he strives for, it becomes much easier to find a common language with him. Therefore, it will be useful not only to learn about 7-year cycles in human life, but also to remember how they differ. Let's go directly to the description.
0-7 years old
According to some experts, the most important of the human life cycles. Until the age of 7, he is an integral part of his mother and cannot imagine his life without her. Often, even separation for a few days becomes a serious tragedy for him, which, fortunately, is quickly forgotten as soon as his mother returns and continues to bestow love on him. The child has the first information about the world around him. This includes both the first sensations (the warmth of the mother, the taste of her milk, her voice), and more complex ones - the development of the vast world (the smell of freshly cut grass, the taste of various products, sand underfoot, and much more). That is, in one cyclethere is a transition from absolute security under the supervision of the mother to the first exit in the cold, cruel world around.
Experts often refer to the first cycle as rooting time. The child actively absorbs any information about the world around him, learns what is acceptable and what is not, what is dangerous, and what is of particular value.
Some experts say that it is during the first cycle that all skills are laid - later they can be developed or not, but it will be very difficult to instill new ones. Therefore, the child should try as much as possible: test himself in sports (swimming, running, long walks), intellectual leisure (simple board games, checkers, reading) and art (drawings, listening to classical music, first learned songs). It is equally important to develop communication skills in him - he must communicate a lot and actively with peers.
All this time the child should be surrounded by maternal love - strict but forgiving.
Thanks to the foundation laid up to seven years, he gets the opportunity to eventually turn into a strong, intelligent, talented and self-confident person.
7 to 14 years old
The second and very important family cycle in a person's life. Here the child turns into a teenager. Therefore, the relationship with the mother fades into the background - now the father becomes a closer person. Perhaps this is due to the fact that any strong, adult man, no matter how serious and successful he may be, remains a playful boy deep in his soul. It is with dad that the child spends a lot of time, learns the world around him not as holistically as before, but more substantively, showing certain interests.
A teenager approaches the perception of the world very subjectively and passes it through himself. He compares his personality with those around him, choosing landmarks and absorbing norms. The whole world is known from the standpoint of egocentrism, such as "this one is taller than me", "this one is thicker than me", "this one is more stupid than me". This is a completely normal approach, allowing a teenager not only to find his place in the world, but also to change if necessary. Subsequently, it will be much more difficult to change. And of course, there should be a father nearby who is always ready to help in any endeavor.
14 to 21 years old
Speaking about the cycles in nature and human life, it is worth noting that this one is the most dangerous for a teenager turning into an adult. Since he is associated with rebellion.
two or three centuries ago) and no longer wants to obey the rules. He wants to install them himself. If necessary, he is ready to destroy the surrounding structures.
First, the conflict occurs in the family, and then the rebellion covers the outside world. Everything that the elders do not like is already good. Ugly clothes?Discordant music? Systematic violation of the rules? Everything will work!
A person is no longer part of the family, becoming a separate person, still single. She has to find her own place in life. It is very difficult to influence an almost adult, especially yesterday's authorities - mother and father. Their child (yes, for them he will forever remain a baby) must fill the bumps on his own. And how serious they will be depends on how correct upbringing and morality are instilled in previous cycles. Some people (usually brought up in a strict, conservative style) go through the third cycle more easily and without much difficulty, rather quickly turning into serious, strong and intelligent people who have something to remember. Others, having gone through a liberal and overly lenient upbringing, may be stuck in a cycle forever, refusing to grow up, find a serious job, form a long-term relationship, or make any commitments.
21 to 28 years old
The teenage rebellion is over. The first cones are filled. Already an adult guy or girl is well aware that the parents were right in many cases that previously caused controversy.
After a cycle of loneliness, the search for a suitable partner begins. For some, this occurs at the beginning of the fourth cycle, and for others, at the end. It depends not only on upbringing, but also on the temperament, habits of a particular individual.
At the same time, the lack of change begins to frighten a person. It seems that all childhood dreams have sunk into oblivion, it's easy to achieve somethingwill not work. At this time, it is very important to find the exact landmarks (if they were not laid in the family) and follow them. There must be a specific goal: for some it's sporting achievements, for someone it's charity, and for some it's just buying an expensive smartphone or branded clothes.
It's safe to say: with time, the depression that accompanies the collapse of childhood dreams (to become a famous actor, president, athlete or oligarch) will pass. The main thing is to survive these difficult years.
28 to 35 years old
If you plot the seven-year cycles of a person's life, then this cycle would become very ambiguous.
It often depends on how the previous cycles went, especially the first two. With the right upbringing, a person creates a strong cell of society, successfully moves up the career ladder, achieves success in areas that interest him, if necessary, changes his job. He is self-confident, has precise guidelines and does not deviate from them.
It is much worse if mistakes were made during education. This leads to the saddest consequences - the destruction of marriage, missed opportunities, lack of interesting areas and hobbies. These problems are often referred to as a midlife crisis. A weak personality, after losing everything that was previously of interest, can begin to roll downhill, begin to abuse alcohol and even turn to drugs, which will surely ruin a person's life.
35 to 42 years old
The cycle is very similar to the previous one - you can callrestarting it. However, at 35, a person is much wiser and more experienced than at 28. Therefore, mistakes are made less often, but if they are made, they become more serious.
Divorced people seek to remarry or remarry - given the mistakes that led to the destruction of the first marriage. Jobs change quite often. Now it is not the prestige of the work that comes to the fore, but the degree of freedom that it gives. A person understands that spending a third of his life in conditions that do not suit him is simply stupid - and even the money that he earns there will not be worthy compensation. Some swear at their jobs and threaten to quit, but if they haven't done so yet, they're content at heart.
From 42 to 49 years old
A rather complicated and ambiguous period - everything that happens here depends on how the previous cycles went, how they influenced the person.
Some people rush headlong into the abyss of materialism. Buying new cars, having mistresses, throwing money away - all this to rise in the eyes of others.
Others, who really achieved their goals and believe in themselves, the correctness of the chosen path, continue to develop spiritually. This does not mean going to a monastery at all. A person simply begins to think more about eternal things, paying less attention to expensive clothes, branded watches and smartphones. He also asks philosophical problems: why are we here? What should be done?
From 49 to 56 years old
Most people who went through everything normallycycles, by this time become calm, wise, self-confident. They are not interested in petty fuss, fleeting hobbies - they have already crossed the threshold of half a century and know exactly what they want from life. Most often it is peace, close people around, comparative prosperity.
At the same time, not everyone becomes passive. Often, on the contrary, many people, retiring and getting enough free time, experience re-youth - they start new hobbies, start traveling. One involuntarily recalls the classic statement of one postman: "I'm just starting to live. I'm retiring." And this joke is not so far from the truth.
What next?
Of course, after 56 years, life does not end. There just aren't any dramatic changes. A person continues the previous cycle, only at first increasing quantitatively, and then slowly fading away - simply for physiological reasons. There is no longer a rethinking of values, a change in worldview - it’s too late at 60 to change the habits by which he lived all his life.
Do loops always work?
Of course, cycles do not always absolutely exactly coincide with age. Therefore, it can be considered an erroneous habit to measure cycles in a person's life by date of birth.
Much depends on the environment and experienced shocks, stresses. To survive in hostile conditions, children have to change, actively develop. As a result, the first cycle may well end in 5 years, and the second - in ten, of course, this will greatly shift andfurther.
And not only hostile conditions lead to this, but also the right upbringing, just a busy life. This allows you to gain experience faster, spend less time making mistakes and correcting them. Of course, with this approach, people reach maximum heights and manage to do more in life.
Conclusion
This concludes our article. Now you know about the philosophy of the cycles of age in human life. Although the theory is considered a bit controversial and not fully proven, it definitely contains certain correct postulates. Therefore, it is very useful to know about it - try the cycles described above on yourself and your environment and you will surely notice a lot of evidence that cannot be just a coincidence.
